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Post by alienation on Feb 15, 2005 21:15:18 GMT -5
Why is it that we expect our lives to be a certain way, or expect a certain level of happiness? We have these mental pictures of what various aspects of our lives (relationships, family, jobs, etc.) are supposed to look like, and when they don't match up.......then what? Aren't we just setting our selves up for failure? Why am I smart enough to realize this, but not smart enough to do anything about it?
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Post by Halo on Feb 16, 2005 21:22:23 GMT -5
Why am I smart enough to realize this, but not smart enough to do anything about it? It has nothing to do with your intelligence. I think it is what we all do. We don't want to give up on our hopes, our dreams, our goals. I do think at times in our lives though, we have to adjust our expectations. I think sometimes we set rather lofty expectations and when those aren't realized we are dissappointed. I think when that happens we have to re-adjust our goals. Not give up on our goals, just re-adjust for a certain period of time. Accept what we did achieve even if it is not what we wanted and strive to then improve upon it. We all have our dreams of what we want out of this life. We all want happiness and to be loved. We set goals for ourselves for our lives and careers. Yes, we have expectations. Some say never have any expectations that way you will never be let down. But if we have no dreams, no hopes, no goals or expectations.....what do we really have to live for? Yes, maybe we do set ourselves up for failure, but do we really have another choice? To live, we have to have our dreams and goals. Otherwise we really are just surviving and not really participating in our own lives, aren't we?
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Post by lilacJ on Feb 18, 2005 3:50:32 GMT -5
L, I keep telling myself the following, and it's helping me alot in my dire times when I get really disappointed about certain things that I was looking forward to that did just not happen: 'Expect Nothing, Avoid Disappointment. If anything happens or comes along then it's a bonus!'[/i] It's hard to not set expectations in one's life, although it is good to have goals, I feel calling them goals is far better and it's more optimistic. It's a challenge at first, it soon pays off in the end. I was told yesterday to always remember that there are people far worse off than we are. When I thought about that, I got really angry, and said to myself that yes, there are people worse off than me, and I understand that concept very well, but for fuck sake I didn't put them in that situation, I didn't cause it, so why do I have to make myself suffer and think there are people worse off than me. It didn't make me feel better at all. It may sound selfish, but I believe that a person creates their own path, and I chose mine, if I want to moan about it, I can! I created it! I'm the one walking it, and if people chose to listen to me then that's their choice, they can listen, or help, or ignore me. I didn't force them to ask me why I was looking a bit down. Wow! I start off being all positive, and then end on a pesimistic approach! Wey ta go Jo! ;D Well, I hope the saying helps you as it's really helped me over the years. Its only just starting to sink in.
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Post by voiceofgod on Feb 22, 2005 12:27:44 GMT -5
I'm probably going to be severly hated for this but, "Life is like a box of chocalates. You never know what you're gonna get."
hahahaha I'm sorry, I just couldn't resist.
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Post by lilacJ on Feb 22, 2005 12:59:43 GMT -5
I'm probably going to be severly hated for this but, "Life is like a box of chocalates. You never know what you're gonna get." hahahaha I'm sorry, I just couldn't resist. Precisely! ;D
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